Caring and Sharing: A post from the heart to Wrap Up 2014

I was wondering what to write about for this blog when that uncomfortable situation happened to me today. I felt completely demotivated, discouraged and willing not to be an educator at all.  (I could have been a doctor, like my dad or a party planner, as a very close friend always suggests me, or a travel planner. Perhaps I’d make more money and would have much fun.  But I decided to be a teacher, to be an educator, a giver).  For many reasons I decided not to share my disappointment with my family as they were so busy with their own work.  It was when a friend from a group I’m part of suddenly popped up in my smartphone talking to another friend about a very interesting topic.  I could not read them properly but I greeted them and shared my problem.  Immediately I had lots of comforting messages, good ideas and examples on how they survived from similar situations and experiences.

Yes, I’m talking about people I first met online, people who are part of my PLN (Professional Learning Network),  but who became real friends. People from different continents, with different time zones, religion and ages, but people I trust and learned to love and respect immensely.  From this  particular group of nine women I’ve met and hugged some of them in conferences and, believe me,  it was as if we had met for a long time. Interestingly this group was formed because we all agreed we should care about helping a friend.  To our surprise we not only have reached our main goal but we also became part of each other’s lives.  We have shared things of all sorts, from education to girlish stuff and from helping people to being helped.  We have talked about taking care of ourselves, to set limits to our actions, we have cried and laughed together, but mainly we have cared because we dare to share.

I’ve been told many times not to share information about my professional knowledge for free or not to care too much about the others.  Well, what should I do with my knowledge then?  And what if other people decided not to share with me?  How could I have become who I am? And how could I not care about the others?  What kind of person would I be? So before asking why we should care and share, perhaps it would be worth thinking about the fact that we do care and share. Perhaps it is far easier not to care because this way we do not need to leave our comfort zones. However, in some way, we are all givers and receivers. Perhaps Caring and sharing come near top of the list of how we do things which help define us at our most empathetic, giving, tender, reflective and nurturing. Caring isn’t optional when you’ve looked at the world. It’s like breathing, it’s necessary. Caring involves sharing, and both involve people who want to make the difference not matter they will or not be recognised.

I dedicate this post to all those from my PLN, to my family and friends, to those people I’ve met face to face,  to those I have not  met yet and to all those who dare to share and care.

Life is too short not to care. And the time always comes when you will need someone to care for you.

I wish you all Merry Christmas and a Happy New year. And may 2015 bring us all peace and  the joy of caring and sharing.

Roseli Serra

Roseli is an enthusiastic educator in Brazil. Graduated in English and Portuguese, she works as an ELT consultant, teacher trainer, materials writer, Cambridge examiner and e-moderator. She's a member of the IATEFL LT (Learning Technologies) subcommittee and works, teaches and trains professionals in the area of TD and LT. She’s also a psychologist, a mentor and a coach certified by SLAC (Sociedade Latino Americana de Coaching). She has a post-graduate degree in Applied Linguistics and is now doing her MA studies in Science of Languages at UNICAP (Universidade Católica de Pernambuco). She truly believes in life-long learning and teacher development.

17 Comments
  • Raquel Oliveira
    Posted at 11:25h, 12 dezembro Responder

    My dearest, sharing is caring <3 My best vibes for you!!!

    • Roseli Serra
      Roseli Serra
      Posted at 16:22h, 13 dezembro Responder

      Thank you for reading and for your permanent joy, Raquel!
      Yes! ” To really care means to dare to share!” , said once Gertrudes Moskowitz .

  • Marisa Constantinides
    Posted at 11:30h, 12 dezembro Responder

    Indeed, life is all too short to miss out on good things, such as meeting people like yourself and all the wonderful friends, supporters, educators we learn from every day of the year.

    It has been a privilege to know you, read your blog and meet with you in person.

    Have a wonderful Christmas and a blessed New Year

    Marisa

    • Roseli Serra
      Roseli Serra
      Posted at 16:26h, 13 dezembro Responder

      Dear Marisa,

      Thank you ever so much for reading and commenting on.
      I consider myself a happy and blessed person for I have had the privilege to have people like you in my life. You might not know , but your work and determination have taught me invaluable lessons. I feel really honoured I could meet and hug you in person .

      Wishing you Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year .

      Love,
      Roseli

  • Marjorie Rosenberg
    Posted at 12:12h, 12 dezembro Responder

    Thank you so much for this Roseli. Caring and sharing is such of part of what we do as teachers that I cannot imagine my job without it. I agree that sometimes we can be taken advantage of when we share, but most of the time what we get back in support, ideas, understanding and yes, even love, from colleagues more than makes up for the few times it does not go the way we expected. Being a teacher means giving to others, it is not just part of my job, but who I am. I think as educators that we ‘live’ our jobs, they are part of our identities and I don’t see how we can separate giving and caring aobut our learners from giving and caring about our fellow teachers. And as we move into a new year, I hope that these inspiring words from Rosie will stay with many of us and that we can think back on this post and know that a global group of ‘carers’ and ‘sharers’ is there listening to us and enriching our lives.

    • roseli serra
      roseli serra
      Posted at 10:12h, 15 dezembro Responder

      Dear Marjorie,

      Thank you for such wise words, I’m so truly happy you are one of those I’ve met and hugged. It’s been a pleasure to share and talk to you . I’ve learned a lot from you . Let’s keep sharing and caring . Let’s keep being real educators with good principles and beliefs that will make the difference for our students and colleagues in some good way.

      You are one of those who makes the difference in my life.
      Thank you!

      Love,
      Rosie

  • Teresa Carvalho
    Teresa Carvalho
    Posted at 12:21h, 12 dezembro Responder

    Roseli, I’ve read somewhere that it is the giver who reaps the biggest gains from a gift. Your post reminds us of the human dimension of social networks and PLNs. People who opt out of sharing and caring are actually missing out on important aspects of human relationships. It is great that people like you exist in this world.

    • Cle Karam
      Posted at 18:25h, 12 dezembro Responder

      The world would definitely be a much better place to live in if we dared to share and care about one another. Thank you for such an inspiring post. May the new year be of caring and sharing blessings.

      Best wishes,

      Clê

      • roseli serra
        roseli serra
        Posted at 10:23h, 15 dezembro Responder

        Hi, Cle,

        Thank you so much for your lovely words!

        Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New year!

    • roseli serra
      roseli serra
      Posted at 10:17h, 15 dezembro Responder

      Dear Tê,

      I’ll never forget we’ve first met online and how we became close friends and travel companions ! I do believe it all happened because we dare to care , share and trust good people are and will be always there for us.

      You’ve been a great friend and source of inspiration for me. Thank God we’ve met, hugged, shared, studied and have had a lot of fun together!

      Big hug, big kiss and big smile!

      Love,
      Rosie

    • roseli serra
      roseli serra
      Posted at 10:17h, 15 dezembro Responder

      Dear Tê,

      I’ll never forget we’ve first met online and how we became close friends and travel companions ! I do believe it all happened because we dare to care , share and trust good people are and will be always there for us.

      You’ve been a great friend and source of inspiration for me. Thank God we’ve met, hugged, shared, studied and have had a lot of fun together!

      Big hug, big kiss and big smile!

      Love,
      Rosie

  • Fabiana Casella
    Posted at 16:27h, 12 dezembro Responder

    Dear Roseli:
    I thank the Lord for the moment you came into my life, virtual friendship should I call it! ? I think, it is way much deeper than that! Caring and sharing are two of the many positive aspects I have found in you!

    • roseli serra
      roseli serra
      Posted at 10:27h, 15 dezembro Responder

      Dear Fabi,

      Although we have never met i person I cannot consider you a virtual friend at all! You are one of the most caring , sharing and lovely persons I’ve ever met. I’m a huge fan of your determination, joy, creativity and professionalism . And our friendship is invaluable!

      Thank you so much for being part of my life.

      Love,

      Roseli

  • Patricia Salguero
    Posted at 19:06h, 12 dezembro Responder

    I have just felt your words like you were saying them to me by looking at me… Roseli, you and many others of my PLN family, because that’s what we are, we have learnt to share and care like a real family without borders. I feel so blessed to have you and all the gang in my life.
    Keep being such a great human being because that makes you a great educator and true frieend!!
    Patty.

    • roseli serra
      roseli serra
      Posted at 10:29h, 15 dezembro Responder

      Dear Patricia,

      I’m really happy you liked the post. Being a humanistic educator, I’m sure they’ve touched your heart deeply because you do know what I mean.

      Thank you for your adorable words and for sharing and caring .

      Love,
      Roseli

  • Debbie Tebovich
    Posted at 16:45h, 15 dezembro Responder

    Dear Roseli,
    Thank you for sharing this is inspiring post. Caring and sharing has such a deep meaning when we finally meet to care and share from the heart. We are becoming better people together and the best teachers we can.
    Thanks for this story of openness
    Love you
    Debbie

    • roseli serra
      roseli serra
      Posted at 20:51h, 17 dezembro Responder

      Dear Debbie,

      Words would be very few to thank you for being always so close to me , for sharing, and for caring. I could not be luckier to have such a friend like you who I call sis. It’d been a pleasure talking to you, reading you and working with you. You are right: we are better together and I have learned a lot from you . I feel blessed and honoured from the bottom of my heart.
      Thank you for your beautiful words and for your big heart, dear.

      Love you
      Rosie

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